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Steamed and Ready to Boil

June 14th, 2007 at 02:54 pm

My husband has me so steamed right now. He is one of those guy's that don't believe in doing too much. Everything is such an effort for him. Mind you he has absolutely no health issues at the present time or has he ever. He does nothing around the house inside or out. That is left for me or outside help. When outside help comes he is never home, he always schedules the appointments on days when he will not be around. But then he has the nerve to complain about everything and anything. I was the one who found the roofers and hired them. I'm the one that made the arrangements to get my deck done. I'm the one that got the trees taken down in the backyard. I was the one that was home yesterday when the pool guys came to check the filter. And today it is my fault that the pool is not up and running. Can you believe it????

My biggest peeve that I have with him right now is that I had purchased a boat for him. A really nice 19 ft. Sea Ray a few years ago b/c he was interested in boating. I got a great deal on a 2 year old. I bought it, he used it a few times and then just let it sit in the boat yard. Now b/c he hasn't kept up the payments on the rental space for the last few years. The people at the boat yard have let the boat deteriorate. There was a cover on the boat(shrink wrapped) but not anymore. There is a hole in the hull. And the whole thing looks like such a mess that I want to cry. When we left it there a few years ago it looked brand new. Anyway, I asked him to please resolve the boat issue. I got a song and a dance b/c he did not want to go down there and speak to the person. Finally he went and when he came home he said that I wouldn't get much for it b/c it was old and it wasn't in such great shape anymore and that it was too small that people are buying bigger boats these days. I went online and checked the book value of the boat and it was valued at 15-18,000.00. So, I don't know who he spoke to b/c he also told me that I would probaly wind up having to give the boat yard about 4,000.00. I got so pissed at him that I told him to just pay the fee and to get the boat out of there and take it home and I will keep it, sell it or give it away. I am so sorry that I ever ask him to do anything...Do any of you have a husband like mine???? LAZY,LAZY,LAZY.

9 Responses to “Steamed and Ready to Boil”

  1. Ima saver Says:

    No, mine is just the opposite. He works 7 days a week, does all the yard work, all the housework and most of the cooking. He can also fix almost anything around the house. I am very lucky!

  2. moneycents Says:

    You sure are!

  3. Nic Says:

    No! Absolutely not in this house. My SO and I work together on just about everything. Why are you putting up w/his childish behavior?

  4. carol Says:

    Nic brought up a very good question and I have to second that. My SO does not do "women's" work but he does mow the front and back lawn every week, buys the groceries and every now and then cooks lunch or dinner.
    Sometimes he gets really motivated and brings in the dry clothes off the lines if it looks like there is a storm coming.

    If his behavior has you this steamed at him, it's very much time to ask yourself why you are tolerating such lazy behavior.

  5. LuckyRobin Says:

    I wouldn't put up with it. Neither would my DH if I pulled it. My DH does some housework and I do some yard work, as well as traditionally doing our own share of the other. We gravitate towards what we do best, but neither one of us is shy about asking the other to pitch in when we are overwhelmed or just want help getting it done faster.

  6. Ima saver Says:

    My husband was the oldest of 3 boys. His mother taught him that women do not do heavy work, like vaccuming. So, I have never touched a vaccum in 30 years of marriage.

  7. fern Says:

    Oh, that doesn't sound good. It's a shame you spent all that money on a really nice gift for him and he didn't take care of it. It kind of reminds me of little spoiled children who gets lots of toys and then don't care of them. If it was me i would start doing less for him and more for you. Maybe he'll notice.

  8. fairy74 Says:

    I agree with Fern, stop enabling him.

  9. moneycents Says:

    I don't enable my husband. It is deal with it or get divorced. Since I'm not a quitter I will not be getting divorced. I have pleaded,begged and screamed at him to do things around here. Sometimes, when he does do things he will do a good job and then he will revert right back and do such a lousey job you just wish you never asked in the first place. I have notice this problem has been getting worse with in the last three years. When I ask him about it. He tells me that he only has 12 good years left and he doesn't want to waste the time working around the house and doing chores. He wants to be fishing 24/7. Every spare minute of his, is devoted to fishing. That seems to be what he cares about most these days. It is almost an obsession. My husband is only 58.

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